The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.
—Augustine of Hippo
—Augustine of Hippo
To the daughters of the Most High:
Conventional wisdom in relationship advice would have you believe that you should choose the man who will bring you the most joy in life, or the man who can provide you with the most possessions, or the man who can offer you the most security. The Internet is filled with ‘10 Lists’ this and ‘15 Qualities’ that, supplying you with a myriad of ways to ensure a happy ending. And if something goes wrong, it’s because you didn’t follow the list.
Don’t fall for any of that. I’ll tell you right now that conventional wisdom is wrong.
Yes, things like happiness and acceptance and peace of mind certainly have a place in choosing to be with someone, but it shouldn’t be your primary requirement. Your greatest concern when choosing a man to spend the rest of your life with should be one thing and one thing alone:
Is this the man who will lead me closest to Christ?
That’s it. No ifs, ands, or buts.
Don’t choose the man that can offer you the world. Instead, choose the man that can offer you Jesus Christ. Because let’s get this straight: we men were never meant to be the source of your joy; Christ was. We men were never meant to be the source of your security; Christ was. We men were never meant to be the source of your understanding, or comfort, or love; Christ was. To ask such things of us is to place us upon a pedestal that we were never meant to station, and because it was never our part to play, we will surely, without fail, fail.
Now you can certainly choose a man who brings you all these things, but that doesn’t guarantee he will bring you closer to Christ. On the other hand, if you choose a man who brings you closer to Christ, he will also most certainly be a man who who brings with him all of these things and more.
Grace and peace to you.
A son of the Most High
I’ve come to realize that I thoroughly enjoy conversing with the elderly.
I’ve always been drawn towards wisdom, and their decades of life spent on this earth are saturated with it. More so, their memories are like windows into the past; living conduits to a place we will never be able to travel again.
There are times when I look upon my life and wonder if someone more capable should have taken my place.
"If through a broken heart God can bring his purposes to pass in the world, then thank him for breaking your heart."
- Oswald Chambers
That sudden stillness when you realize that the things you used to desire are no longer the things you now desire.
Even now, if you called
If you called, I would come
I would come.